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Doctor explains what happens when you die ‘peacefully’ and why we shouldn’t fear it

A palliative care doctor has attempted to break the taboo surrounding death by explaining what happens to us in a so-called “peaceful” passing.

Most of us fear death for a multitude of reasons but many never discuss the subject – with many not being clued up over the scenario.

Dr Kathryn Mannix is a palliative medicine doctor who wants to end the taboo about death and what happens to a person when they are about to die.

The author of With The End in Mind, Dr. Mannix sat down with BBC ideas to discuss death – particularly, what happens during a peaceful death.



sometimes death is so gentle that families don’t even realise that it’s happened
Sometimes death is so gentle that families don’t even realise that it’s happened

She said: “In my humble opinion, dying is probably not as bad as you’re expecting.”

She begins by talking about the way that we talk about death, or rather, the ways that we don’t talk about death. What she says is true, many of us simply don’t mention the ‘D words’ and in place of saying ‘dead’, we might go for an alternative like ‘passed away’.

Conversations about death have, dare I say, disappeared. We’re often not sure what to say, don’t know what to expect and generally are not sure how to approach the situation.

The problem is, Mannix says, that when we don’t use the correct words, families may not understand that death is approaching and then could find themselves in a situation where nobody knows how to act or what to say to a loved one who is dying, let alone what to expect. But it doesn’t need to be like that at all.

Mannix said: “We’ve lost the rich wisdom of normal human dying and it’s time for us to talk about dying and reclaim the wisdom.”

The clip sees Mannix discuss what is often the pattern of a ‘peaceful’ death, even comparing it to childbirth.

She added: “Dying, like giving birth, really is just a process. Gradually people become more tired, more weary. As time goes by people sleep more and they’re awake less.”

So with this increasing need for sleep, what can it look like and how can it present itself?

Mannix continues: “Sometimes a visitor might happen or a medicine might be due during that sleep and that is when we can discover that a change has taken place, it’s tiny but it’s really significant and it’s just instead of just being asleep, this person has temporarily become unconscious.



Dr. Mannix believes dying is probably not as bad as you’re expecting
Dr. Mannix believes dying is probably not as bad as you’re expecting

“When they wake later on, they tell us they’ve had a good sleep, so we know that this coma doesn’t feel frightening. That lapsing into unconsciousness just isn’t noticed by us when it happens.

“So as time goes by, people are awake less and asleep more until eventually they’re just unconscious all the time.”

We’ve all heard the words ‘death rattle’ interpreted as being something that is scary, morbid or even uncomfortable for the dying loved one but Mannix goes a step further to describe what exactly a death rattle, what causes the phenomenon and why it’s not to be feared.

Talking from the perspective of the one dying, she says: “We will be so relaxed that we won’t bother to clear our throats, so maybe we’ll be breathing in and out through little bits of mucus or saliva at the back of our throat, it can make a rattly, funny noise.



Dying, like giving birth, really is just a process.
Dying, like giving birth, really is just a process

“People talk about the death rattle as if it’s something terrible but actually it tells me that my patient is so deeply relaxed, so deeply unconscious that they’re not even feeling that tickle of saliva as the air bubbles in and out through it from their lungs.”

The build up to death is one thing but even the last few breaths drawn by someone can be peaceful according to Mannix.

She continues: “At the very end of somebody’s life, there will be a period of shallow breathing and then one ‘out breath’ that just isn’t followed by another ‘in breath’. Sometimes it’s so gentle that families don’t even realise that it’s happened.”

Mannix believes that we need to normalise conversations around death in order to educate each other and ultimately console each other in the best ways that we possibly can.

She finishes by saying: “Normal human dying, just a really gentle process. Something that we can recognise, something that we can prepare for, something that we can manage and this should be something that we can celebrate.

“This is something that we should be able to console each other with but because it’s become impolite to talk about dying, it’s the really best kept secret in medicine.

“Dying is something we should be reclaiming, we should be talking about, we should be consoling each other about.”

Doctor explains what happens when you die 'peacefully' and why we shouldn't fear it
Anurag Reddy
I'm a 29-year-old travel enthusiast, travel and nature photographer, Computer Science graduate, and Mass Communication student. I have seen different shades of life through traveling and lived different lives through reading. With every word I write, I travel within, and I understand myself better. Writing helps me discover myself, and that paved roads for me to choose writing as a profession.
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